People Skills

Make Every Interaction Count

In our technology-saturated, social-media-connected world, why are so many people feeling disconnected? Behind the false security and pseudo connections of our screens, we’ve lost the ability to engage in healthy, meaningful, real-life interactions.

But we were made for connection—and there is a skill set that can help you own your impact, strengthen your relationships, and make every interaction count.

From bestselling author and licensed therapist Debra Fileta, People Skills offers 31 transformational social skills that will strengthen your interpersonal relationships and help you create meaningful interactions.

Whether in relationships that are superficial or deeply significant, this life-changing guide offers practical lessons on empathy, clear communication, listening skills, body language, conflict resolution, attachment styles, and more to help you make a lasting impact.

Rooted in Scripture and expertly informed by science and psychology, this relationship roadmap will empower you to become an effective conduit of God’s love. Whether you’re in leadership, ministry, or business—or simply looking to strengthen your connections—you will find skills, insights, and encouragement to increase your people skills, and make every interaction count!

1. Opening Credits
2. Dedication
3. Chapter 1: People Skills: Why You Need Them (Not Just the Person You’re Thinking Of)
4. Chapter 2: It’s Not a Deficit of Love: It’s a Deficit of Skill
5. Chapter 3: First Impressions: How Do You Come Across?
6. Chapter 4: Conversation Skills: Go Deeper with People
7. Chapter 5: How Deep Are You? Four Levels of Communication
8. Chapter 6: Tell That to Your Face: Body Language Matters
9. Chapter 7: Positive Affirmation: Making Deposits Before Withdrawals
10. Chapter 8: Empathy Is Everything: Looking Out Their Window
11. Chapter 9: What’s Your Type? Own Your Communication Style
12. Chapter 10: Listening Skills: Fifty Percent Is a Failing Grade
13. Chapter 11: Be Real: Authenticity Attracts
14. Chapter 12: Vulnerability Leads to Intimacy: The Pratfall Effect
15. Chapter 13: Dealing with Rejection: Thank You for That
16. Chapter 14: The Art of an Apology: #SorryNotSorry
17. Chapter 15: Forgiveness Is for You: Get Unstuck
18. Chapter 16: Your Social Temperature: On a Scale of Hot to Cold
19. Chapter 17: What’s the Rub? Assessing Your Triggers
20. Chapter 18: People Pleasing: What Served You Will Sabotage You
21. Chapter 19: Set the Tone: Your Mood Is Contagious
22. Chapter 20: Practice Humor: Not Everyone Is a Comedian
23. Chapter 21: We All Have a Little Narcissus in Us: Pride Repels
24. Chapter 22: The H Word: Humility Attracts
25. Chapter 23: Social Anxiety: One Perspective Shift That Changes Everything
26. Chapter 24: Dealing with Difficult People: Love from a Distance
27. Chapter 25: The Feedback Loop: Is it Red, Yellow, or Green?
28. Chapter 26: The Best-Kept Social Secret: Attachment Styles
29. Chapter 27: Emotional Intelligence: People Smarts
30. Chapter 28: Technoference: From Screen Up to Screen Down
31. Chapter 29: Find Connecting Points: Get in the Zone
32. Chapter 30: Comparison Versus Connection: They Aren’t Your Measuring Stick
33. Chapter 31: To Love and to Like: Your Highest Calling
34. Closing Credits