Unwanted

More than 100,000 copies sold

“Without rival, the best book on broken sexuality I have ever read.” ―Dan B. Allender, PhD

Many of us feel ashamed and undesirable after years of sexual brokenness and addiction. The guilt and stigma surrounding sexual struggles can paralyze us and keep us from seeking help and healing. Author Jay Stringer approaches these sensitive subjects with gentleness and understanding as he shows the way to restoration.

Based on original research from over 3,800 men and women, Unwanted is a groundbreaking resource that explores the “why” behind self-destructive sexual choices to help readers work towards freedom. Addressing difficult issues with compassionate insight, this book discusses:

Abandonment and broken relationships Trauma and sexual abuse The sex industry and pornography Violence against women Learning to love and care for yourself Healthy conflict and repair in your relationships Investing in community Creating healthy boundaries

A perfect resource for those seeking self-help or those working to minister to the sexually broken people around them, Unwanted offers life-changing, practical guidance rooted in clinical evidence and a Christian perspective to light the way on a path to wholeness.

1. Opening Credits
2. Dedication
3. Author's Note and Additional Resources
4. Foreword by Mark Laaser, Mdiv, PhD
5. Introduction
6. Chapter 1: A Theology of Unwanted Sexual Behavior
7. Part 1: How Did I Get Here? | Chapter 2: Setting the Course of Unwanted Sexual Behavior
8. Chapter 3: Dysfunctional Family Systems
9. Chapter 4: Abandonment: A Life in Exile
10. Chapter 5: Triangulation: When You’re Married to Your Parent
11. Chapter 6: Trauma as Soul Loss
12. Chapter 7: Sexual Abuse: The Corruption of Desire
13. Part 2: Why Do I Stay? | Chapter 8: The Six Core Experiences of Unwanted Sexual Behavior
14. Chapter 9: Three Hijackers of Our Souls
15. Chapter 10: The Sex Industry: Pornography as Male Violence against Women
16. Part 3: How Do I Get Out of Here? | Chapter 11: Transforming Self: Learning to Love and Care for Yourself
17. Chapter 12: A New Sexual Story: Sexual Healing
18. Chapter 13: Exercise Attunement and Containment in Your Relationships
19. Chapter 14: Practice Conflict and Repair in Your Relationships
20. Chapter 15: Pursue Strength and Vulnerability in Your Relationships
21. Chapter 16: Learning to Invest in Community
22. Chapter 17: Community as a Place to Experience Structure and Mutual Support
23. Chapter 18: Community as a Place to Offer Empathy for the Stories of Others
24. Chapter 19: Community as a Place to Discover Purpose: Living for a Bigger Story
25. Conclusion
26. Closing Credits